Update

In the past few weeks, my loved one's behavior has become increasingly erratic, and unfortunately we're in the place of just waiting for something bigger and badder to happen. 

Thursday, they filed a civil lawsuit against my husband and me, for having stolen their money they've made because they're a star. The amount of damages? One million dollars. My husband, bless his accepting heart, drove them down to the court, and was around to answer questions and provide support if needed. The lawsuit was officially filed. Never thought I'd be sued for $1,000,000. I believe the next step is that we will be interviewed by case investigators.  

Our loved one also has contacted an attorney to file a restraining order against us. They see no conflict between asking for a restraining order while living in our home, and while we transport them.  In their mind, the order would protect them by preventing us from abusing them, or talking to them when they are threatened.  

Unfortunately for them,  they learned they cannot file a restraining order on someone who serves as legal guardian. So they requested that we relinquish guardianship. We graciously declined, but did offer that if they had someone else they wanted to serve as guardian we'd be happy to transfer.  

They are sensing some urgency for all of this court action, because once they receive the money due them, they'll be able to move to California, when we move to Pittsburgh. We are trying to encourage a two-step approach, so that if the money doesn't materialize, they could move with us to Pittsburgh, and then continue their legal action against us. 

Meanwhile, the yelling and fear continue. Two nights ago, they woke us up to complain that we were in their room abusing them and laughing at them.  Again, it didn't matter that we were sound asleep and they needed to wake us up to level these charges. Apparently, we can be in two places at one time, according to them. We have returned to sleeping in our locked bedroom. 

And so the waiting game continues. While we have legal authority to do so, we have no ability to logistically get them into a car or into the hospital. Given previous physical altercations with them, we can't.  And given the effective standard of "imminently suicidal",  "imminently homicidal", or at "imminent risk of serious harm due to inability to care for oneself", our loved one does not meet the standard for being picked up and taken to the hospital against their will. 

As time continues to pass however, the chances increase that they will be deemed imminently homicidal or at imminent risk of serious harm to self.  Meanwhile, we will try to keep ourselves safe, our loved one safe, and our community safe. And if this is hard for us, imagine how hard it is for our loved one.